I heard something interesting today by Ingrid Mattson. It may not be so Ramadan-y. It’s about religion in general. Also she applied it to cultural religious people and those who are not so open minded when it comes to following religion. The person speaking about Ingrid Mattson’s speech referred to the mosque’s that we have today.
A cult and a community: Ingrid Mattson –
A community is a place where everyone is welcome and diversity is welcome.
A cult demands that everybody be exactly the same. Act the same, dress the same, talk the same.
In a community when somebody makes a mistake, it nurtures them and helps them and they will support you until you’re back again.
In a cult when somebody makes a mistake, they’re kicked out.
In a community, you want to engage and help people understand themselves better by open conversation without being afraid of criticism. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, community supports the idea of open questions.
In a cult, you’re not allowed to ask questions. If you do, you are told to zip it.
In a community, we don’t only want to understand ourselves, but our neighbours (other religions etc). Communities like to reach out.
A cult hates outsiders, don’t listen to anybody else, they think outsiders will mess you up (don’t listen to this speaker, don’t go to this this mosque etc).
A fundamental part of community, to help the family become stronger. Trains you to become a better mother, father, neighbour, daughter, husband brother, sister etc.
A cult cuts you off from your family. There are conflicts and disagreements within the home because your family does not agree with your cult and it’s thoughts. So the family becomes your enemy. The cult will say your family is dunya not deen so stay away.
We need communities. From reading the above, a lot of people follow cults or are leaders of cults. As the next generation we need to turn these cults into community. Whether Muslim, Christian, Hindu, Buddhist, Jewish, Sikh.. whatever. A lot of youth will read the above and can relate to the cult because the youth are the ones that are on the rough end of the stick.
The above can only go to a certain extent for some because they probably haven’t witnessed the cult like behaviour and this is good. I’m happy that you may not agree with the whole cult analogy. It means you’re living in quite a nice community or just somewhere in between.
As a Muslim, I think we’re somewhere in between cult and community. There are many of the points in the community section which I’ve come across and I’m glad. I just want to lean more over to the community side. If I was growing up in a community, I think I’d be a lot more comfortable with myself. Something to work on for our children. Also, something to try and fix with the older generation. I think there should be more communication. I must emphasise that this isn’t about knocking down religion. No, I respect my religion. The appliance of it is what I’m talking about here.